Week 2 of the de-clutter

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The online sales have slowed right down. Last week I was on a massive roll and this week is slow. The mountains of stuff piled up in the lounge room and dining room are making me anxious and frustrated. Jared and I are at a bit of a stalemate because he wants to spend the weekend painting and I want to have a garage sale. His reasoning is that the painting will take the longest and we can’t sell the house until it’s painted which is all true. My point is that I can’t live with all this stuff everywhere and it will need to be gone to paint anyway. The more stuff you have to move around while painting the harder it is. Also the garage needs to be emptied this weekend so the builders can get a trailer in there to start work on the deck and the only access to the back garden is in through the garage. We could spend Saturday for a half day on the garage sale then take everything left to the charity shop then spend all Sunday painting.

It’s already Wednesday today and the week is closing in fast so if the garage sale is to go ahead signs need to be made (thank god for those left over pizza boxes), price tags need to be stuck on to things and everything needs to be sorted into areas. I might see if tonight Jared can help me move some things in the garage to make room and I can start setting up the tables in there and moving things out to get it ready. I will need another hanging rail from somewhere so I might put up a post on the local Facebook page to see if anyone can lend me one for the weekend. The thought of all this is completely

Sunday evening has already rolled around and boy has it been a hectic week. My good intentions to get us back onto our Keto diet have failed massively with the appearance of Logan’s 1st tooth on top of a growth spurt along with Jared and myself painting till 11pm every night completing two bedrooms and getting a start on the hallway.

We spent all day on Saturday and Sunday on our Garage sale getting up at 6am to set up and open the doors for 7am. I won’t say it was a complete success but it defiantly was worth it and we have learnt a lot of things to make the next one better. We finished the weekend exhausted but $1,100 richer. The best part of the sale was meeting some great people. Everyone was very supportive of our plans and had some great advice to share. It was surprising that a few people had done something similar, one lady had taken her four children around Europe for over 7 months and couldn’t speak more passionately about the fun and adventure her family experienced.

What’s planned for this week you ask? Most likely the never ending chore of painting along with selling more things on Facebook and Gumtree, hiring a graphic designer to create an amazing logo for us, setting up our Patreon account and draft some sponsorship proposals up. We might have to slow down a bit this week due to my body rebelling. I am nothing but aches, pains and sniffles. Overall we have had a very successful week, although there is still a long way to go to reach our goal however after chatting with everyone at our garage sale we are feeling pumped and motivated to press on.

 

 

Our Emotional Attachment To Objects

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Since we are selling everything we own and hitting the road I have had to take a real hard look at everything I own and weigh up not just if it brings joy to my life as everyone seems to say now days but also am I emotionally attached to this item and why. As someone who has filled the garage with boxes containing not only photos and birthday cards but also any note a friend ever wrote me at school and every school planner I ever received.

The first question is why did I choose to hang on to this stuff, I mean I never look at any of it? Is it that I am having trouble letting go of the adventures of my past? I started going through box by box and looking at everything I had kept and I thought this will be great I will take a photo of everything and share it with the people from my past so that we can all enjoy it. I quickly realised that no one really cared because really it was just bit of paper that don’t really mean anything. Most of this stuff when I really looked at it didn’t bring back great memories of adventures past or take me back through great memories. So after about 3 boxes I just started throwing everything out. I took digital photos on my phone of the photos but that’s about it. So far what I am left with is a small box of stuff that is a mix of a few items that do trigger a big memory and then there are the items I don’t feel like I have permission to throw out.

There are items in my memory boxes that I’m sure are also in yours that I do not feel like I have the right to chuck in the bin. When I was born I was given as gifts small jewellery to fit a baby and a set of silver hair brushes and looking mirrors. Now I don’t have any specific attachment to these items because well I was a baby and don’t even remember who the gifts came from however that doesn’t change that fact that I still feel a huge pang of guilt at the thought of discarding these items. So the question is do I keep them or maybe try to give them back to my mum and see if she wants them?

How can I have made so much progress in sifting through my past and memories and be stuck on these few items? I guess this goes to show that progress comes in waves and we are ever changing and evolving beings. One thing I will say about keeping all these items and looking through them is that I have come to realise I was a blog writer before blogging was a thing and I think that gave me just enough courage to start writing and posting these blogs.

Shall we move on to the big ticket items that also have guilt strings attached? Earlier this year we brought two big and expensive tv’s and 2 new sofa’s and although I keep telling myself “it’s just money” and “we enjoyed them for a few months if we sell them we can get some of the money back” I am still finding it hard to let these items go. I can imagine everyone saying “but you just brought all this stuff what a waste of money”. When I think about the decision we have made I am 100% sure it’s the right one. Not a single fibre in my body thinks this is a mistake and that is what is going to give me the courage and strength to get rid of these items.

Your memories will stay with you forever and no amount of items or keepsakes can take you back in time to those precious moments, all we have are our stories and our ability to create more memories and new precious moments. If you find you are hanging on to relics from the past maybe take a good look at them and ask yourself if, like me, you are hanging on to these items and memories in fear that there are no more adventures in your future. If this is you remember you’re the master of your own destiny and you can steer your ship in the direction of any adventure you choose.

One Foot Out The Door

How do you know you are living your best life? Is the path you have chosen the right path or are you just settling? Are you dreams worth pursuing or are they just silly ideas you talk about with your friends or partner after a couple of drinks?

These are some questions my husband and I have been seriously asking ourselves over the last few months. The answer we have come up with….. Lets sell everything we own, including our house, and take our 7 month old baby and 4 year old Beagle around the world.

Wow. That was a scary sentence to write.

Up until now travelling is just something we have talked about longingly over a couple of drinks getting all excited until reality comes crashing down around us and we realise we are parents and we have responsibilities. We were both well travelled before we met and we had great plans to travel when we got together but life has thrown us a lot of curve balls and challenges that have always made travel hard. I will write another post going into more detail on our curve balls later.

The big decision…

I would love to tell you there was one big defining moment when I just suddenly woke up, turned to my husband Jared and said something like “why are we working so hard to pay for this big house and all this stuff” and although that discussion defiantly happened it was a lot more subtle and took place over a few months.

There is nothing like having a baby to put life into perspective and make you re-evaluate your whole life. Our son Logan was born at 28 weeks into a usually 41 week pregnancy, and spent 4 months in hospital. That was defiantly our toughest challenge as a couple and started these more serious discussions about what we are doing with our lives and what our priorities are. Before Logan was born I was working 14hr days and flying from Sydney to Queensland for work once a month and that is defiantly not something I can imagine going back to now that Logan is in our lives. After all we have children to spend time with them don’t we? Faced with the reality of going back to work I started really seriously thinking about what my new career path would be and nothing I came up with sounded like the right decision.

Where to Start….

So you have made the hard decision, but how do you start? Don’t worry. I am still asking myself this too. The first thing we did was call a real-estate agent to come and look at the house and tell us what we need to do to get it onto the market and how much the thinks we will get for the house. We were very surprised; apparently our house has made some money. I will go more into that once the house is sold but since it’s not even on the market yet you might have to wait a few months. The second step was to call some builders to quote the work that needs to happen and I am hopefully receiving a quote later today and i have all my fingers and toes crossed that it doesn’t hurt our travel fund too much. Apart from these two big steps I have been de-cluttering. I had actually started the de-cluttering process a few months ago trying to get my 5 bedroom, cluttered house down towards minimalism by selling stuff we don’t need or use on gumtree (the Australian version of Craigslist) or Facebook buy, sell, swap. So how do you de-clutter? For me I tend to stand in the middle of a room saying over and over where to start. I think the best way is layers, start with a room and just grab a few things that jump out at you that you can safely say you don’t want, then move on to another room and come back later and more things will jump out.

What’s next?

Next two people with no DIY skills will start to tackle the list from our real-estate agent, as well as waiting for quotes from some professionals for the stuff we know we cannot do, like replacing the balcony. I will continue to de-clutter and sell everything I can, however my house looking like a messy antiques store is starting to stress me out a bit so we might have to do a charity shop drop off soon. The desire to just run is high, I think once you have decided to change your life drastically it’s disheartening to go slow and do it right, thus constant motivation is key. We stay motivated mostly through YouTube videos of travellers, places to visit, tiny home and van-life vlogs. Talking about all the different options is import as well to keep the dream alive. We are still trying to figure out what the plan exactly is but at the moment it looks something like this

1) Sell all our crap

2) Sell the house

3) Tell our families

4) Travel round Australia a bit in our off road camper trailer

5) Attend the 3 or 4 wedding we are currently invited to including my sisters

6) Figure out how to ship Jared’s car to England

7) Fly to England and stay with my Nanny (should possibly tell her first)

8) Buy a caravan or trailer and convert to some sort of home (possibly gain DIY skills before this step)

9) Start travelling

Well that’s all for my very first blog post. Remember you dreams deserve centre stage and not to be stuck in the wings.

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